Lower Your Barrier (Babysteps Instead Of Grand Ambitions)

I believe moderation is a lie. For me at least. I learned that the hard way. If you want to quit an addiction, you have to say goodbye to that habit forever.

But being too ambitious about your new resolutions can paralyse you. 

When I was fat, for a period there I took long walks. Even though my foot hurt, probably from my weight. Then my brother wanted to do "De Dodentocht": a Belgium-famous 100km 24 hour walk, and do it before my 95 year old grandfather died. My grandfather was an avid walker, and had done that challenge multiple times. Even as a pensioner. 

I decided to enroll as well (€60), with the ambition to loose the weight in time, and then just stopped walking. I think because the task was too daunting. I didn't do the walk.

My brother, skinny, was at the start. He made numerous mistakes that he was warned about. His walk was hell. It was raining buckets and his feet were wet for instance. He was carrying bottles of water that weren't necessary. Wrong shoes. But he is tough and walked it through in time. I had to carry him to the car afterward. It took him weeks to recover. He walked on crutches. My grandfather died a few months after.

Don't make your ambitions too grand. You might end up doing nothing, or walking on crutches. My brother seems to have something to prove, and I'm proud of him. Well, he did it for my grandfather. Who, apparently, never had as much as a blister. LOL. But my brother also tends to just not move at all, if he doesn't get to the gym according to his schedule. He could just do some exercises at home, I tell him. But it's all or nothing.

It's better to move around the house for a bit, than be paralysed by your ambition to look like Arnold. It's okay. You have a right to exist.


peace ✌️ 💜 

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